Men are more complicated than we sometimes give credit to. There could be a number of reasons why suddenly he is giving you the "need my space" statement. A lot of times, it has nothing to do with you. It might be he is experiencing family problems. Maybe he suddenly feels insecure with himself. Perhaps he has a fear of commitment. There are many, many more that could cause the need space movement.
What is a woman's defense against this need more space situation. Well, while every case is different, here are some common things a woman can do. Here are the answers to how to get my ex boyfriend back when he wants more space.
Control the emotions. Men are betting on you freaking out because they view all women as emotional powder kegs just waiting for a reason to go off. Show him he is wrong. In fact, do not get your pride hurt and do not let this situation get the best of you. You may still be in love, but play it cool. Maybe even play a little cold like whatever, your loss not mine.
If you think that he might still be interested in you, then give him a little time, a week, maybe two. Then strike up a casual conversation with him. How he is doing, but nothing about the relationship or breakup. No drama, it will only push him away more maybe ruining your chances in the future. Short conversations, text messages, emails, or whatever you are using to communicate. No feelings involved, just how you doing and short answers to his questions. Let him lead the conversations.
If the space issue was really something external in his life, then you will see that eventually he will begin to come around and start showing more interest in talking more about the relationship, or at least where you two may be going. If the relationship comes up, but he is hesitant, start hitting him with the "remeber whens" that were good memories to both of you. Avoid anything negative about the relationship.
If you find that he is not responding or really shows no interest, he could be not interested in a commitment right now. He could be really needing space from everything, definitely give it to him. Eventually you are going to tell whether it is worth pursuing, and when he does start to warm up, slowly start to try to rekindle the relationship.
If your ex boyfriend is giving you the right signals, you can try to open your heart up to him. Let him know how you feel, but avoid looking desperate or needy in the process. If your ex is showing you that he is thinking about rekindling things, then it would be healthy to be open with him. But if his signals are pointing in the other direction, it may be wiser to step back and let things happen more naturally.
There will come a time for you to either rekindle the relationship or realize it is time to move on.
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